Help For Your Relationship
Where neuroscience meets the heart and the body. Safety and security is paramount in secure functioning relationships. You love each other and you both try to make it work, so why doesn’t it?
Well, to be honest , it’s a problem with your brain and your memory. You don’t know what you don’t know, also you often don’t know who you are and you certainly don’t know who your partner is, even though you think you do.
I am going to show you who you are and help you learn how to be the expert in yourself in your partner and how to keep each other safe.
I use PACT Therapy with my couples, the psychobiological approach to couples therapy was developed by Dr Stan Tatkin, he taught me his methods and I am privileged and honoured every day to help people like you build the secure bonds of love.
What is PACT?
PACT stands for A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy®. I will use the PACT principles to guide you in overcoming challenges you face as a couple. PACT was developed out of exciting, cutting-edge research in three areas.
The first is neuroscience, the study of the human brain. Understanding how the brain works provides a physiological basis for understanding how people act and react within relationships. In a nutshell, some areas of your brain are wired to reduce threat and danger and seek security, while others are geared to establish mutuality and loving connection.
The second is attachment theory, which explains the biological need to bond with others. Experiences in early relationships create a blueprint that informs the sense of safety and security you bring to adult relationships. Insecurities that have been carried through life can wreak havoc for a couple if these issues are not resolved.
The third area is the biology of human arousal—meaning the moment-to-moment ability to manage one’s energy, alertness, and readiness to engage. It isn’t necessary to understand the scientific basis of PACT to realize its benefits.
What does a PACT session look like?
Your experience during a PACT session may differ somewhat from what you would experience in other forms of couple therapy. Key features of this approach include
I will focus on moment-to-moment shifts in your face, body, and voice, and ask you to pay close attention to these as a couple.
I will create experiences similar to those troubling your relationship and help you work through them in real time during the session.
PACT tends to require fewer sessions than other forms of couple therapy.
PACT sessions often exceed the 50-min hour and may last as long as 3–6 hours. Longer times allow for the in-depth work of PACT.
I may videotape sessions to provide immediate feedback to you.