If there is one common feature of brooding, bottling or false positivity, it’s this: they are all rigid responses. And if there’s a single lesson we can learn from the inevitable fall of apartheid it is that rigid denial doesn’t work. It’s unsustainable. For individuals, families, for societies. And as we watch the polar ice caps melt, it is unsustainable for our planet.
Research on emotional suppression shows that when emotions are pushed aside or ignored. they get stronger. Like that delicious chocolate cake in the refrigerator…the more you try to ignore it ….